Let it Go WEEK 10: Task 50

LET IT GO

Today, take an index card and write, "Let it go" in capital letters on one side. On the other side make a list of everything in your life you're ready to let go of and move on from. If you run out of room, get another card and repeat the process. Once you've written everything down, read each item individually aloud. After reading each item, flip your card over and say your action statement aloud, "Let it go."

50 = +2 points for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How did you feel before, during and after this task?

2. Which item stood out the most on your card? Explain

3. How did performing this task impact you? Explain 

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Confrontation Counts WEEK 10: Task 49

CONFRONTATION COUNTS

Today, is confrontation day. Not in a bad way, but in a good way. It's time to take some steps to confront whatever or whoever hurt you. This time I'm going to give you a choice of methods. Either you can write a letter, call or meet face to face. Regardless of the method, your job is to confront the situation. If you write a letter, you only have to send it to the person if you choose. However, the letter needs to address everything that is and has been on your heart. If you have the courage to call or meet, the same rules apply. Just make SURE the atmosphere is appropriate and the other person is open to hearing what's on your mind.

WARNING: If you believe there could be any elements of danger associated with this task, please do not perform. DO NOT put yourself in harms way. I'm in no way telling you it's a must for you to perform this task. Please use your common sense and best judgement. 

49 = +2 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How did you feel before, during and after this task?

2. Which method did you decide to use to confront your past?

3. How did performing this task impact you? Explain 

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

I Forgive You WEEK 10: Task 48

I FORGIVE YOU

Today is probably one of the hardest task I've given. Stand in front of a mirror and close your eyes. Refelct on how you got to this point in your life. What happened, who was involved, when, where and how it all transpired. Do this for however long you need to summon the emotions you felt as a result of what happened. Hold onto and embrace those feelings as you open your eyes. Look yourself directly in the eyes and repeat, "I forgive you" 10 times.

48 = +2 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How did it feel to remember?

2. How did you see yourself when you opened your eyes?

3. Do you truly forgive yourself? Explain 

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Identifying the "What?" WEEK 10: Task 47

IDENTIFYING THE "WHAT"

Today, your task is to identify the "what" by answering and discussing the following questions with your accountability partner. Forward the questions to them and allow them to ask you each one. Your job is to be open and honest enough to answer. Questions:
1. What happened?
2. What is it that's been keeping you from letting go?
3. What needs to happen for you to forgive?
4. What can you do differently to resolve?

47 = +2 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How did it feel to answer those questions?

2. What was the most interesting conversation you and your accountability partner had?

3. How does the idea of forgiving and moving forward sound to you now? 

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

The Secret of Sankofa WEEK 10: Task 46

THE SECRET OF SANKOFA

Today, you need to look up the meaning behind the "Sankofa bird" symbol shown. It's a proverb with a good lesson associated with the journey of letting go. Once you've researched, print out the symbol and post it somewhere you can easily view. Next, write briefly what it is and how it applies to you.

46 = +1 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How does this symbol relate to your current mentality?

2. Who will you share the lesson you learned from this with?

3. How does looking back make you feel at this stage in the process? 

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Get Back on Track WEEK 9: Task 45

GET BACK ON TRACK

Sigh...I shouldn't have to say this, because most of you already know. Re-commit, re-commit, re-commit! Yes, you more than likely cheated on your diet yesterday so I'll keep it simple today and just tell you to refcous and get back on track! ;)

45 = +2 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. What will you do to refocus yourself?

2. What does re-committing to yourself look like for you?

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Gone Girl! WEEK 9:Task 44

GONE GIRL!

Today, be thankful for where you've come from and where you're going. Appreciate the commitment you made to yourself. You've come a long way from where you started and you should be proud of what you've accomplished! Pat yourself on the back, look yourself in the mirror and say, "Gone Girl!"

44 = +2 points for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. Can you name 3 things that are different about you since you've started the challenge?

2. What are you grateful for today?

3. How does it feel to be committed to yourself?

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Do the Diet WEEK 9: Task 43

DO THE DIET

This is going to be REALLY hard, but, sigh...no one said getting back to you would be easy! Make the commitment to START eating right TODAY! DO the DIET! No excuses...we learn through DOING. Don't cheat yourself by giving in to the temptation of doing what everyone else will be doing; that's what the "Old You" would do. Make the commitment to develop a plan to say "No" to your "cravings" and "Yes" to committing to yourself. ;)

43 = +2 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How hard is this task going to be for you?

2. What method did you choose and why?

3. How do you feel about committing yourself to following through with this task?

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Tighten Up! WEEK 9: Task 42

TIGHTEN UP!

Today, your task is to tighten up. Literally! We've worked on your mind, emotions and spirit. Now it's time to get moving by focusing on your body! The "new you" has to fully commit to herself. Sign up for a gym, bootcamp, personal trainer or whatever helps you begin the process of tightening up that body. Stop procrastinating and make the call and commitment TODAY!

42 = +1 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How hard was this task for you?

2. What method did you choose and why?

3. How do you feel about committing yourself to following through with this task?

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Status Check WEEK 9: Task 41

STATUS CHECK

Today, it's time to evaluate the status of your BIG 4 goals. Are you on track? How far have you come and how far do you have to go? In week 4 you wrote a commitment contract, "I will by..." Pull it out and make sure it matches the "new you" and to ensure you're not off course. Re-commit to making, measuring and meaning what you set out to originally do!

41 = +1 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. Are you still on course with your original goals?

2. What's changed about you in the last month?

3. How did you feel after re-evaluating, reviewing and re-committing to your goals?

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Do What You Like WEEK 8: Task 40

DO WHAT YOU LIKE

At some point today, make time to do something ONLY the "new you" would do. Do something you've been planning to do for awhile but never had the time, energy or courage to do for whatever reason. It doesn't have to be anything major, it can be something simple. Asking a guy on a date, cooking dinner from scratch, reading a book, test driving that car, eating that chocolate cake, or NOT eating that chocolate cake! Whatever thing that makes you say, "I've been wanting to do this for a loooong time!"

40 = +1 point for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How long did it take you to decide what you wanted to do?

2. How hard was it to follow through?

3. How did you feel before, during and after doing what you liked?

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Veracity Video WEEK 8: Task 39

VERACITY VIDEO

Today, we're going to make a video about who YOU think you are. Find a video camera or simply record on your phone. Your video can be however long you choose. Take all of the results you've worked through this week and create your own analysis of who you are. Your video should include you completing the following statements: I am beautiful because..., I am happy because..., I am successful because...,etc. Make sure you say them with sincerity and like you mean it. 

39 = +2 points for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How did you feel as you were recording?

2. How hard was it for you to record those statements?

3. Would you show your video to anyone else?

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

A Friend's Approval WEEK 8: Task 38

A FRIEND'S APPROVAL

Today, write an email to your best friend explaining how much you value their friendship and want to do everything possible to strengthen it. In fact, to help strengthen your relationship, ask them to tell you all of the qualities they love about you as well as the ones that need work. Tell them to be as honest as possible because you're working on developing the "New You." Once you receive their response, don't fire back an immediate response, rebuttal or a "No you didn't reply message." I need you to pause, receive the feedback and reflect on it. Besides, who knows you better than your best friend?!

38 = +2 points for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How did you feel when you received their answers?

2. How hard was it for you not to immediately respond?

3. Was your friend's perspective of you the same as your own? Explain

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Who Am I to You? WEEK 8: Task 37

WHO AM I TO YOU?

Today, find at least 3 people you know and ask them the question, "Who am I to you?" Don't try to filter the conversation by helping them define you; allow them to answer on their own. Your job is to receive whatever response you get. If it's simply one word...receive that. If it's a long drawn out story about remembering when...receive that also. The idea is to gain other people's perspective on who you are. Oh yea...one more thing. You ALSO have to pick someone who you "DON'T" really care for and who probably doesn't care for you either. It could be your child's teacher, your baby's father, in-laws, nosy neighbor or Keisha from the 4th floor who rolls her eyes everytime you see her in the lobby! It doesn't matter...just find someone! Good luck!

37 = +2 points for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How did you feel as you were listening to their answers?

2. How hard was it for you to just receive the feedback?

3. Was other people's perspective of you the same as your own? Explain

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/

Dream a Little Dream WEEK 8: Task 36

DREAM A LITTLE DREAM

Today, find an old childhood and current picture of yourself. Position them side by side to each other. Take the next 10 minutes and on one side of a piece of paper, write all of the dreams you remember having as the younger you. Do the same thing for the older you. Compare the list to see what's changed and what's remained the same. Next, post at least 3 of your current dreams in a place where you and others can see them this week. (refrigerator, cubicle, social media status, mirror, etc.) Just make sure they're in a place you'll see everyday for the next week.

36 = +2 points for completing

Journal Questions:

After you complete this task - Go to the quiet space you've created for your self, take 3 deep breaths, read the below questions and journal about everything that comes to mind. Don't think too hard...just write as if you were talking on the phone to a friend.

1. How did you feel when you saw both pictures together?

2. What moments did you remember most about your childhood?

3. What dreams did you forget about and need to refocus on?

"Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always stay out of your own way!"

Jack A. Daniels is a best-selling author, speaker, syndicated columnist and counselor. Jack can be contacted for interviews, speaking engagements, questions or comments concerning this blog and/or project @ http://www.presspause.org/